With the bigger kids at school and the little ones eating breakfast I can finally throw a load of washing in the washing machine and sit down to write this. Our mornings are so rushed and if I don’t do things in the morning then it wont get done at all during the day. That’s because I live online.
I know many others are like me especially many bloggers. As soon as your on that computer your only up to see why the kids have been fighting for the past 30 mins. They’ll be able to sort out their own fights surely. Then your up for toilet breaks and the occasional food break.
Two weeks ago Elise (Mummy hearts money) and I went to a Fisher price events. One of the perks of being a blogger. Get to go to events plus catch up in real life with some awesome bloggers and people we would never usually met like people who write for Cosmo Pregnancy. Plus people like Sally Obermeder who I knew had a familiar face. We were there to talk about being overjoyed, overwhelmed and oversharingting. Running through the city after catching the train I overexercised myself.
The panel of experts sat down and we all just had a great chat. It was awesome to see and hear the words that I have always thought were true. For example never take anything those parenting books tell you seriously. Take it with a grain of salt and if it works for you that’s great. If it doesn’t then it means nothing.
We talked about oversharingting. Which is what we apparently do now. We over share our parenting experiences. I do that a lot. I think it’s better to talk about it and share our experiences because maybe it will help that one person who is going through the same experience.
My cyber village is where I like to be. I like to be online. I like to share, ask and answer my online friend’s questions. I tried running my own playgroup so that my real life friends and I can catch up. That didn’t really plan out to well. I try to see my friends in real life so that I can go out but everyone is so busy with their own lives (including me) that it just never happens.
Someone spoke up and said how she values her time spent with her mother’s group. She can share and talk to real people in person. That’s excellent. I never got that. Only because in person someone will always try to speak over you to add their thoughts. Whereas online I can have my say and people will read it.
I love my online community of mothers. I have been with a group of girls for over 9 years now. We have our own little private community where we can share our ups, downs and in-betweens. We help each other out by donating money to each other and we do catch up in real life too. All of these people are my friends for life. We have watched our children grow up. We have watched the mothers we know turn into grandmothers. We have lost a friend who battled with cancer. That is my second family. If I have anything to ask about parenting I turn to them first.
Then there is my online community of bloggers who I can share things with too. I have found many parents battling with a 4 year old with toilet training. Some have already been through it and have re-assured me it will end.
Fisher price’s survey has revealed that gen Y mothers are more socially connected and love nothing more than sharing their experiences. That’s pretty spot on. From now on really everything is going to be shared online. Parenting expert Fiona Baker has said that mums these days are more connected with social media not only for support but it makes them feel not alone in the world. If your home with bubs at 3am and turn to social media there’s always someone online to talk to.
One thing I don’t agree on is she said that Gen Y mums are taking a more relaxed approach and not putting too much pressure on themselves to do everything. They cherish every moment with their child. I don’t agree that we are more relaxed. I think we still put as much pressure on ourselves and sometimes more than other generations. We want our children to still become doctors and be successful in the world. We might take different approaches then other generations would have but that’s evolution. Parenting is changing and when our kids are parents it’s going to be different for them too. But they will still feel the pressure and not be relaxed in their parenting.
I do tend to have a “whatever” view in my parenting. Like ehh my kid is licking the glass door. Ehh my kid is licking the floor. Ehh my kid is licking her hands and wiping her face with it saying “I’m clean”. I’m more relaxed in the way that I don’t think that my kids have to be doing swimming, dancing, netball and piano lessons in one week. That makes me relax to know that my kids do Maui Thai once a week. I don’t have to be stressed running around all week with activities for them. Plus it’s cheaper.
For me I love to catch up in real life with my friends when possible but like I said I live online so love my online communities.
Fisher price has a new app you can download and you can share your overjoyed, overwhelmed and overtired moments.
Online friends Vs offline friends? Which do you prefer?